I’m going to write something a bit critical, having just finished reading “your money or your life” and “a year of less.” It’s not critical from the perspective of the idea of the books or even the 9 steps or the wicked ability to transform oneself that the authors talk about. I think there is some really good information in these two books and I am glad that I read them. The thing that struck me after I finished reading the books was that maybe they are not so useful for people that already live a relatively alternative lifestyle to start with. Does anyone else have this feeling like we are writing for people in the mall and being all, hey out of the mall, kids!
There was a newspaper article a number of years ago which read something like, did hipsters just steal everything from 1990s lesbians. The money or your life book made me feel the same way, except replace hipsters with frugalers and gaydar with no money. But then, there is no fun in being a jerk, so I’m not going to hate. But I am going to focus on what is missing.
Again, thats not to say that I didn’t learn anything from the books. But I’m starting to get annoyed with the no lattes, no cable, and no buying a brand new car advice. Oh, and no makeup. Who the fuck does that anyways? I don’t (and never have) purchase lattes. I’m 39 and bought my first new (to me) car last year, and I haven’t had cable since 1997. I also don’t wear makeup. Is this the revolution we are waiting for? I’m still struggling with debt.
And then I think, maybe a lot of people do these things, and definitely, my parents do and did this. But I want a different book: a how to be frugal when you are already frugal book. Where is that book? Are we just all too broke ass to buy and or write that book? And maybe I’m just a grump because I remember being a lesbian in the 90s. I also don’t want someone sleeping in my spare room as a “side hustle.”
So I am going to talk about some things that the book didn’t cover that I want to know about:
- How to get out of debt while you help support your family because they have no money also. My in-laws car just blew up. They are worse off then we are. How to help?
- How to invest when you don’t live in the US – UK people help me out here!
- How to use a Kakeibo (which is how we track our money) – there is one on amazon, but I bought one off etsy.
- How to stop getting gifts?
- What vegetables are really worth growing (instead of buying) in the summer? I just planted strawberries. I hope that is a good one. (Update, after some research it looks like herbs, tomatoes, cucumbers, lettuce, and blackberries are winners).
- How to have a minimal closet, wear boring clothes, (which I wrote about here) and just not give a damn.
- How to try to convince your spouse that being middle class is not an entitlement just because his parents were.
- Maybe how to build my own tiny house.
- How to spend time in the garden so that you don’t go out without racking up debt on plants and booze.
And with further adieu, I give you my grump. Apologies!